Psychiatric Interview: BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) | Part 3 | Analysis with Dr. Jacob
Dr. Karen Jacob uses a debrief of her interview with a BPD-diagnosed client as a jumping off point for a more general discussion about therapy. You can find …
Very interesting video, as the rest of this serie. It really resonated with me, I mean it touches deep subjects. Validation is something complicated: when people or therapists always say 'I understand you' after every damn sentences, it feels fake, I'm never sure they really do. I find it to be an automatic response just to reassure me. Nobody can be understood from the inside, yet the seek for validation is a trap: you want to be understood, but never 100% will be! In my opinion, validate oneself is the key. Then you feel legitimate to feel legitimate to feel whatever you feel.
OH MY!! Here it is! More of Dr. Jacob! God bless. Thank you. Just heading to watch it – and probably like another 3973 times more after that… hi from Czech republic. 🙂
Lots of good food for thought here. I really enjoy Dr. Jacob's demeanor and balanced perspective on things. I'm 51 and currently trying to decide if I want to pursue therapy at this point. I had a great therapist in Germany who I felt walked a good balance between validation and challenge, but I was only able to see him for about 5 or 6 months before I moved back to the states last year. I was just beginning to feel like I was making some positive progress, when my whole world got turned upside down again. The thought of trying to find a good fit again at this age feels futile at times honestly, but I've regressed a lot since I moved back. Anyway, thank you for the quality content.
I have a question: when you talk about "validation" , are you referring to a sort of "understanding" of the patient's perspective from the therapist point of view ("I understand you"), or a litteral "approval" of the patient behaviour ("I agree with you")? Because from my "inexpert" point of view it seems difficult to balance between trying to deeply understand the roots of one person's story (for example, the origin of a familiar disagreement), even commenting with her the feelings at stake, and letting the patient take his/her own space to retrieve his/her personal memories. What do you think about? Thank you very much, as usual 🙂
I would love to hear Charlotte's perspective regarding the comments. I feel like a lot of people are projecting their own feelings onto the therapy session while not considering how Charlotte might have felt about it.
Exactly Dr. Jacob! It depends on what you expect. Is it a validation? Or you want to change? If so, the change is painful by definition. As a person diagnosed w/ BPD, I'd choose this shrink.
Maybe you're removing yourself from just being with her during the session and listening to what she's saying now and being with her. You can do the analysis later, you won't miss it at any point. It came across strongly in the session that you were emotionally removed and in a different place, I think you lacked a human element to your approach which came across as somewhat cold. I feel she was a subject in an object to you rather than a person.
Maybe somethings are buried for a reason. My addictive nature made me keep digging.im now nonfunctional with depression and tons of emotion stuck in my chest. My ability to ignore emotional pain seems to be tremendous,,the dam finally broke.im constantly suicidal but logically I don't want to die.going back to substances seems enevetable.
Is it a problem that the "patient" here has seen two different therapists and had her story made public? Could this harm her?
Very interesting video, as the rest of this serie. It really resonated with me, I mean it touches deep subjects. Validation is something complicated: when people or therapists always say 'I understand you' after every damn sentences, it feels fake, I'm never sure they really do. I find it to be an automatic response just to reassure me. Nobody can be understood from the inside, yet the seek for validation is a trap: you want to be understood, but never 100% will be! In my opinion, validate oneself is the key. Then you feel legitimate to feel legitimate to feel whatever you feel.
Yes. Holy fuck. She’s on it… that thing about the dysfunctional therapist. God totally resonates!
Ahh I like this better. Much more warmth. How interesting 🧐
OH MY!! Here it is! More of Dr. Jacob! God bless. Thank you. Just heading to watch it – and probably like another 3973 times more after that… hi from Czech republic. 🙂
Dr. Jacob needs her own Podcast. I would love to hear her talk more about therapy.
Amazing series. An even bigger ongoing contribution than the original movie. Thank you.
Lots of good food for thought here. I really enjoy Dr. Jacob's demeanor and balanced perspective on things. I'm 51 and currently trying to decide if I want to pursue therapy at this point. I had a great therapist in Germany who I felt walked a good balance between validation and challenge, but I was only able to see him for about 5 or 6 months before I moved back to the states last year. I was just beginning to feel like I was making some positive progress, when my whole world got turned upside down again. The thought of trying to find a good fit again at this age feels futile at times honestly, but I've regressed a lot since I moved back. Anyway, thank you for the quality content.
I have a question: when you talk about "validation" , are you referring to a sort of "understanding" of the patient's perspective from the therapist point of view ("I understand you"), or a litteral "approval" of the patient behaviour ("I agree with you")? Because from my "inexpert" point of view it seems difficult to balance between trying to deeply understand the roots of one person's story (for example, the origin of a familiar disagreement), even commenting with her the feelings at stake, and letting the patient take his/her own space to retrieve his/her personal memories. What do you think about? Thank you very much, as usual 🙂
I would love to hear Charlotte's perspective regarding the comments. I feel like a lot of people are projecting their own feelings onto the therapy session while not considering how Charlotte might have felt about it.
Exactly Dr. Jacob! It depends on what you expect. Is it a validation? Or you want to change? If so, the change is painful by definition. As a person diagnosed w/ BPD, I'd choose this shrink.
This series is fire 🔥 thank you
Maybe you're removing yourself from just being with her during the session and listening to what she's saying now and being with her. You can do the analysis later, you won't miss it at any point. It came across strongly in the session that you were emotionally removed and in a different place, I think you lacked a human element to your approach which came across as somewhat cold. I feel she was a subject in an object to you rather than a person.
Maybe somethings are buried for a reason. My addictive nature made me keep digging.im now nonfunctional with depression and tons of emotion stuck in my chest.
My ability to ignore emotional pain seems to be tremendous,,the dam finally broke.im constantly suicidal but logically I don't want to die.going back to substances seems enevetable.